I would like to start with a quote from one of my favorite writers:
Maya Angelou ""It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody"
Everyone wants to know how to clear their chakras, their past lives, old energy the simple one step answer is forgiveness. Even forgiving yourself, those who have passed on, everyone. The fact is that we are not perfect, you will at one point in your life mess up and hurt someone or yourself, by not being the person that you were expected to be. Maybe you stayed in a bad relationship too long, misjudged someone, self sabotaged your goals or any number of missteps that you will replay in your mind until the tape is worn out. Someone in your life may do you a great injustice, hurt you, or hurt someone you love. This is a simple fact of life. Holding on to the anger only hurts you in the long run. It is like taking a slow working poison that hardens the heart, skews your self image, and can ruin future opportunities. 

How to forgive is an entirely different beast. Some points that may help you on the forgiveness journey:

• Forgiveness is not to be mistaken for weakness. In fact it takes a very strong person to forgive. 
• Forgiving someone does not mean that you will allow them to hurt you again. It means that you are no longer going to allow the pain of what happened to continue to hurt you.
• You must recognize that no one, including yourself, is perfect. Messing up is how we learn and grow.
• We did not choose to come into this life to be perfect.
• When you forgive someone, you are setting yourself free from their energy and releasing them from yours. The longer you hold on, the longer they stay in your life.
• You cannot change someone else with your wrath. Being angry and sad does not change who someone else is, just who you are. 
• Peace is when you realize that it is time to look forward and love whom you have become. Everything in your past made you the amazing person you are right now.
• When you forgive yourself for your mistakes, you give yourself permission to grow and to evolve.
• Forgiving yourself does not mean that you do not have to make amends to those you have wronged. Saying your sorry and meaning it, means that you commit yourself to building a better relationship with that person or yourself. 
• Accepting an apology does not mean that you have to keep that person in your life.

This is a very short list that I will expand on in an upcoming book. (Check out http://www.jdayauthor.com to stay up to date on  my newest books!)

Clearing out your heart chakra takes time and patience. You cannot wave a magic wand and expect all of the lifetimes of hurt to vanish.  You can little by little, release the hurt, the wounds and the pain of the past and fill that space up with love. Love yourself and those around you for being the perfectly flawed people that you are meant to be. Love the sunrise of each new day and the opportunity it brings. 

Affirmation:
With gratitude for the lessons learned; I forgive and release all old energy, cords, and anything else that is holding me back from living in a state of peace and Divine love.

My chakras and energy field are perfectly cleared, activated and aligned with the energy of love.

Love is paradoxically both the simplest and most complex of all human emotions. It is easy to love someone who is kind, compassionate, and loves you back. How about that loving feeling when they are hurtful, spiteful, jealous? I had a client come to me about this recently and I said to them; "Love them not because of who they are, but because of who you are." This caused them to pause. You can love someone past the pain. It does not mean that you must be a doormat and accept bad behavior. You can love someone and yourself by creating distance. You can voice your truth and tell them that although you love them, you will not allow them to continue to hurt you. You always have the right to step back and walk away.  It could be temporary or permanent.

Time away does not mean an hour or a day, it means real time, with no texting, emailing, or phone contact. No social media either, don't stalk their page and expect to get any healing done. Behaviors and attitudes need to change. But you also have to look at how you have been treating yourself. How you treat yourself, tells others how you want to be treated. If you do not give yourself enough time, you will attract friends, coworkers, family, and significant others who do not give you any time. If you never spend any money on yourself, why should anyone else? If you make nasty and hurtful comments about yourself, you are telling others, it is okay for them to do that as well. If you continue to allow people to mistreat you, there is no reason for them to change. Your attitude of self love should act like a beacon of light for others to be attracted to and to live in the space of that light.

It can be scary to make these changes, but you will find that the people who stay with you through those changes are well worth keeping. Self love is powerful. It is different than conceit. Conceit says, "I am better than everyone else."  Self love says, "I, like everyone else am worthy of love." "I, like everyone else, am important and  am worthy of being heard."  Conceit is a lower vibration while empowerment takes nothing away from anyone else. 

So if you love someone who is acting "unlovable," remember that you can love them because you are a loving person who knows that under their behavior is someone who is insecure, in pain, lost, angry or any number of things that have absolutely nothing to do with who you are as a person. You can love someone without giving them your energy and time. You can give them a loving thought and move on with your day. You can wish them well and then spend time making your life awesome.

I wish for you a season of love and abundance.

Love,
​J. Day