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Celebrate Valentine's Day by Cleaning Out the Emotional Self

2/13/2021

I would like to start with a quote from one of my favorite writers:
Maya Angelou ""It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody"
Everyone wants to know how to clear their chakras, their past lives, old energy the simple one step answer is forgiveness. Even forgiving yourself, those who have passed on, everyone. The fact is that we are not perfect, you will at one point in your life mess up and hurt someone or yourself, by not being the person that you were expected to be. Maybe you stayed in a bad relationship too long, misjudged someone, self sabotaged your goals or any number of missteps that you will replay in your mind until the tape is worn out. Someone in your life may do you a great injustice, hurt you, or hurt someone you love. This is a simple fact of life. Holding on to the anger only hurts you in the long run. It is like taking a slow working poison that hardens the heart, skews your self image, and can ruin future opportunities.

How to forgive is an entirely different beast. Some points that may help you on the forgiveness journey:

Forgiveness is not to be mistaken for weakness. In fact it takes a very strong person to forgive.
Forgiving someone does not mean that you will allow them to hurt you again. It means that you are no longer going to allow the pain of what happened to continue to hurt you.
You must recognize that no one, including yourself, is perfect. Messing up is how we learn and grow.
We did not choose to come into this life to be perfect.
When you forgive someone, you are setting yourself free from their energy and releasing them from yours. The longer you hold on, the longer they stay in your life.
You cannot change someone else with your wrath. Being angry and sad does not change who someone else is, just who you are.
Peace is when you realize that it is time to look forward and love whom you have become. Everything in your past made you the amazing person you are right now.
When you forgive yourself for your mistakes, you give yourself permission to grow and to evolve.
Forgiving yourself does not mean that you do not have to make amends to those you have wronged. Saying your sorry and meaning it, means that you commit yourself to building a better relationship with that person or yourself.
Accepting an apology does not mean that you have to keep that person in your life.

This is a very short list that I will expand on in an upcoming book. (Check out http://www.jdayauthor.com to stay up to date on my newest books!)

Clearing out your heart chakra takes time and patience. You cannot wave a magic wand and expect all of the lifetimes of hurt to vanish. You can little by little, release the hurt, the wounds and the pain of the past and fill that space up with love. Love yourself and those around you for being the perfectly flawed people that you are meant to be. Love the sunrise of each new day and the opportunity it brings.

Affirmation:
With gratitude for the lessons learned; I forgive and release all old energy, cords, and anything else that is holding me back from living in a state of peace and Divine love.

My chakras and energy field are perfectly cleared, activated and aligned with the energy of love.

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Tips and Tools to Thrive During the Holidays in 2020!

12/19/2020

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Hello friends,

2020 has been a wild ride to say the least! Have you filled your 2020 bingo card yet? For many of you the holidays may look a little different this year. I know there are those who will get to spend it with their loved ones, but there are many like me who may choose to spend it in isolation. This can make an already difficult season even harder to cope with. I would be lying if I said that no tears were shed at my decision to stay home.

Those who are close to me know that my favorite place is at home with my family, but all of us fall into the medically susceptible category and have decided that travel is too risky right now. So the question is how to move past the tears and into a place of hope?
Well the answer depends on what is making it difficult for you to find your joy. I will break it down into categories and give you some tips and tools to rock around your Christmas tree, Light a spiritual fire for your Menorah, get creative with your Kwanzaa or ring in the New Year with a sense of joy!

Challenge 1. Money is tight
Many of you have found yourself in between jobs, stuck in quarantine, or counting your pennies in the off chance that the proverbial deer poop hits the fan. Here are some ways to celebrate while counting the coin.

Skip the travel and celebrate from home. Many of you are doing this out of safety, but this is a good choice if you want to save on travel costs.
Check out YouTube videos that are all about cooking on a dime! One of my favorites are Frugal Fit Mom. She makes cooking for a family of six on a budget look easy. But honestly she is one of many who can help you find inspiration. Here is another great channel for cooking on a budget: Tasty
Hand made gifts only, using what is already in the house. Maybe it is a poem, or a bell jar craft, the idea is to re-use and recycle to celebrate your holiday and love for each other.
Handmake all of your decorations. Go to the dollar store, buy as much crafty items as you can with say $5-10 and go to town. Could you make a wire hanger tree with close pin ornaments? Could you find some beautiful candles and candle holders to light up the night? Do It on a Dime, Liz Fenwick DIY, and His, Hers and Ours have some great decorating ideas for Christmas and Hanukkah from the dollar tree.
Use YouTube playlists for holiday music!

Challenge 2. You are all alone
You may find yourself all alone during this difficult time and you will have the choice of being stuck in sad mode, or planning out fun ways to celebrate.

Try something new. I decided to try my hand at baking this year.
Use Facebook or zoom to have a virtual dinner with your family and friends.
Plan out some new traditions that celebrate being on your own, PJ's all day, coca and movies with popcorn for dinner (celebrate your inner kid.)Special meal for you and your pet. Buy/make yourself a great gift. The options are endless, be creative and enjoy your time.
Get in touch with other people you know who are having a rough time being alone and make a virtual celebration for you all.
Find a charity and set up a virtual Facebook fundraiser for them.

Challenge 3. You are straight up depressed
Okay, I got it 2020, was rotten and the flying snakes and no toilet paper really iced your cake. Seriously though there are several ways to cope with this:

Find someone, ideally a professional to talk it out with. Once you have done that, there are other ways to get out of the funk.
Find ways to help others in your community. It does not have to be in person. Many charities need volunteers with skills. I work with a local Soropimist club that helps women and children all over the world. I ended up creating a Meditation that you can download here: Fundraising Meditation to raise funds for my club. You have your own set of skills to share and care.
Exercise, get your endorphins up and work out the stress. Go outside or stay inside with some workout videos. Showing love to yourself, is a wonderful first step.
Make plans for fun activities. They do not have to be post quarantine plans, they can be as small as a candle-lit bath or as big as a "When Covid is over " vacation.

However you celebrate is up to you, but remember that challenges are a chance to be creative and innovative. You can inspire the light in the people around you.

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